662. Intuitive Swiping: How to Navigate Dating Apps With Your Heart

Moving Too Fast

Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik explore the pitfalls of moving too fast in dating, particularly when partners rush into serious topics like marriage or children before even meeting. Krista notes that women often fall for this because they are dreamers, but it usually leads to disappointment 1. Lindsey adds that such behavior can be a subconscious manipulation tactic, making women more likely to proceed to the next step in the relationship 2.

It's like a hook technique. And it's also just, again, weird. Like, we've never met or we've gone on a few dates. I actually don't know anything about you.

--- Krista Williams

They emphasize the importance of progressing naturally and being wary of partners who use this tactic to create a false sense of intimacy 3.

   

Lack of Planning

The hosts discuss the frustration of dating partners who lack initiative in planning dates, which can signal disinterest or inconsiderateness. Lindsey shares her experience with partners who avoid planning, leading to prolonged online conversations without meeting in person 1. Krista highlights that last-minute planning can be inconsiderate and suggests setting clear expectations for date planning 4.

Why are we having conversations over two or three weeks and not even beginning to talk about connecting in person? What are we doing?

--- Lindsey Simcik

They advise listeners to be proactive in suggesting dates and to recognize when a partner's lack of planning might indicate a lack of genuine interest 5.

   

Avoiding Personal Depth

Krista and Lindsey address the issue of partners who avoid introducing dates to friends or sharing personal life details, which can suggest barriers or disinterest. Lindsey points out that if a partner is not bringing you into their social circle, it might indicate a lack of commitment or something they are hiding 6. Krista adds that such behavior can create a routine that lacks spontaneity and depth 7.

If they're not introducing you to friends and are avoiding it, that's a good one. There's no attempts to bring you in.

--- Lindsey Simcik

They encourage listeners to have open conversations about these issues to understand the underlying reasons and to ensure that the relationship is progressing naturally.

   

Checking Intuition

The importance of listening to one's intuition in dating is emphasized by Krista and Lindsey, who offer practical tips for self-awareness during dates. Krista suggests taking a moment to check in with oneself during a date to assess feelings and intentions 8. Lindsey highlights the danger of being blinded by chemistry, which can lead to overlooking red flags 9.

It shouldn't be very complicated early on. I think I had a situation. It was, like, a little complicated early on.

--- Krista Williams

They remind listeners that they have a choice in dating and should prioritize mental stimulation over physical attraction to ensure a healthy relationship 10.