662. Intuitive Swiping: How to Navigate Dating Apps With Your Heart

Profile Pics

Profile pictures on dating apps can reveal much about a person, but they also come with their own set of red flags. Lindsey Simcik and Krista Williams discuss the trend of men using glamour shots and selfies, which can sometimes feel inauthentic or overly curated 1. Krista notes that many men reuse photos taken by their exes, which can be a subtle indicator of their past relationships lingering in their present dating life 1. Lindsey finds it unsettling when men ask for additional photos, suggesting a superficial focus on aesthetics rather than genuine connection 1.

There are enough photos in my dating profile. Do you need to get another angle? Do you need one without makeup? Do you need a full body picture?

--- Lindsey Simcik

The duo also highlights the importance of creativity and effort in profiles, warning against profiles that are either too lazy or overly detailed 2.

   

Digital Comm

Digital communication on dating apps can often reveal deeper intentions or lack thereof. Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik emphasize the importance of engaging conversations and mutual interest in each other's lives 3. They point out that a lack of questions about one's life or interests can be a significant red flag, indicating a self-centered approach to dating 3. Krista shares that many men may not have deep conversations in their lives, making them appreciate a listening ear, but it should not come at the expense of mutual engagement 3.

If you're not feeling the ping pong, the natural flow of conversation, to just let it hang in the silence. Are you going to ask me a single question about me?

--- Lindsey Simcik

The duo also warns against profiles that project negativity or defensiveness, as these can signal unresolved issues or a lack of readiness for a healthy relationship 2.