Published Jun 1, 2020

Like Riding a Roller Coaster in the Dark

Lou Foglia opens up about the heart-wrenching emotional and ethical complexities he faced as the primary family communicator during his father's Covid-19 hospitalization, illuminating the profound struggles and decisions families endure when a loved one is critically ill.
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  • Ventilator Use

    recounts the agonizing decisions surrounding his father's ventilator use. He describes the emotional turmoil and uncertainty, likening it to a "roller coaster ride in the dark" 1. The family faced a critical moment when the attending physician asked whether to include a do not resuscitate (DNR) order in his father's chart, a decision fraught with potential consequences 1.

    My father had been on a ventilator for eleven days when the attending physician at the intensive care unit called and asked whether they should include a do not resuscitate order in his chart.

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    Ultimately, the family decided to reintubate if necessary, but the emotional weight of these decisions was immense 2.

       

    DNR Order

    The discussion around the DNR order for Lou's father was a pivotal moment. Lou discovered his father's healthcare directive, which clearly stated his wish not to be resuscitated or supported by a ventilator for an extended period 3. This discovery brought a mix of relief and guilt, as Lou had already approved extensive medical interventions 3.

    I found the healthcare directive. It was clear, do not resuscitate. I was relieved. We wouldn't have to make what felt like an impossible decision.

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    The emotional burden of these decisions weighed heavily on Lou, highlighting the profound impact of such directives during critical moments 1.

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