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Published Jul 12, 2017

103: How Trauma Affects Our Relationships

Chase Kosterlitz explores the profound impact of trauma on relationships with Kristen Holbrook, who sheds light on how early experiences shape our self-perception and bonds. Through counseling approaches like EMDR, practical advice, and empathy, they discuss pathways to healing and enhancing connections.
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  • EMDR Therapy

    EMDR therapy offers a unique approach to processing trauma by using bilateral stimulation to integrate fragmented memories. explains that this method differs from traditional talk therapy, as it targets the physiological aspects of trauma stored in the nervous system 1. This innovative technique helps clients process unresolved trauma, potentially improving their current relationships and overall well-being.

    EMDR uses bilateral stimulation to process unresolved past trauma that could be driving current dysfunction in relationships.

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    While EMDR is gaining popularity, Kristen emphasizes that it is not the only option for healing, and clients can choose whether to combine it with talk therapy or explore other methods 2.

       

    Self-Work

    Self-work is crucial for overcoming trauma and enhancing relationship dynamics. highlights the importance of individual counseling to understand how past experiences influence current behaviors and interactions with partners 3. By addressing these blind spots, individuals can foster better communication and support within their relationships.

    Doing your own self work is really important, but also doing the couples counseling and giving your partner a chance to understand why you might be reacting in a certain way.

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    Kristen advises singles to engage in self-discovery to build self-esteem and identify compatible partners, ensuring healthier relationships in the future 4.