The "Winningest" Coach in College Sports. How He Did It for 20 Years.
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Oreo Analogy
uses the Oreo cookie analogy to teach effective emotion management. He explains that the cream in the middle represents time, which should be increased between thought and action to avoid impulsive reactions 1. This method helps in making more reasoned decisions rather than reacting emotionally.
The goal is to increase the gap of time between those two. How many of you watched the Academy awards when Will Smith went up and smacked Chris Rock in the face? That dude had no cream in his Oreo cookie.
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Assaiante emphasizes the importance of presenting this concept non-judgmentally, especially to children, to help them understand their reactions and improve their behavior 2.
Building Resilience
Building resilience is crucial, according to , and it starts with allowing young people to experience failure. He argues that shielding them from discomfort hinders their development 3. Experiencing setbacks and learning from them is essential for growth and success.
The only way you can become resilient is to fail. I tell my little ones all the time, you cannot show bravery until you are first afraid.
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Assaiante also highlights the importance of discussing failures constructively, helping young people understand what went wrong and how to improve 4.
Facing Fear
advocates for facing fears head-on, a concept he describes as "running to the roar." He shares a metaphor about lions hunting, where the prey's fear leads them to danger, illustrating the importance of confronting problems directly 5. This approach helps in realizing that fears are often less daunting than they appear.
Go at what you perceive to be the problem. And what you'll invariably find is it's a toothless old lady.
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He also discusses the necessity of sometimes taking a step backward to move forward, emphasizing the importance of adaptability and continuous improvement 6.