Navy Captain David Carey On Surviving As A POW With Admiral James Stockdale (with Stoicism)

Stoicism

David Carey shares how Stoic philosophy, particularly the teachings of Epictetus, played a crucial role in maintaining mental resilience during his time as a POW. He emphasizes the importance of realistic optimism, a concept that later became known as the Stockdale Paradox, which involves accepting harsh realities while maintaining hope for the future 1. This mindset helped him and his fellow prisoners focus on what they could control, such as supporting each other and maintaining their identity as military personnel 2.

We don't control what happens, basically, but we control how we respond.

--- David Carey

Carey also highlights the freedom of choice, even in captivity, as a fundamental Stoic principle that allowed them to retain a sense of agency 3.

   

Forgiveness

Embracing forgiveness was another key aspect of Carey's survival strategy, both philosophically and practically. He recounts a message from a fellow POW, Kag, which emphasized the importance of not holding grudges against repentant individuals 4. This approach fostered a supportive community among the prisoners, allowing them to share their experiences openly and move forward without the burden of shame or guilt.

When you screw up, you gotta fess up. I mean, but it's gonna be okay. It's not the end of the world.

--- David Carey

Carey believes that acknowledging one's mistakes and choosing to forgive are essential steps in overcoming adversity and maintaining mental health 5.