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Published Oct 17, 2022

My Red Flags When Dating

Lyss Boss delves into the complexities of dating by examining gender dynamics, emphasizing the value of decisiveness and financial gestures, and flagging key indicators like poor communication and disrespectful behavior as red flags in potential partners.
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  • Text Messaging

    Text messaging in the early stages of dating can reveal much about a person's character. emphasizes that a lack of enthusiasm or responsiveness in texts is a significant red flag. She shares her experience with a partner whose texting style felt disrespectful and dismissive, making her feel undervalued 1. Lyss advises that if someone is not prioritizing you through their communication, it might be wise to reconsider the relationship. She recalls a friend's experience with a flaky partner who made excuses to avoid meeting up, highlighting the importance of consistent and genuine communication 2.

    If a guy is being super flaky, or he tells you who left his phone in a cab and couldn't hang out with you, or he lost his phone or he had a work thing, anything, really. If he's super flaky and he isn't texting you the day of a plan and making sure, you know, to confirm that you're still on, take that as a huge red flag.

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    Texting is a primary form of communication today, and its quality can significantly impact the perception of a potential partner 3.

       

    Effort in Planning

    The effort a partner puts into planning dates is a telling indicator of their interest and character. finds decisiveness and initiative in planning to be attractive qualities, as they demonstrate care and effort 4. She recounts experiences where partners expected her to make all the plans, which she views as a lack of effort and interest 1. Lyss shares a story of a partner who lied about losing his phone to avoid meeting up, which she recognized as a red flag 5.

    When a guy is decisive, in my opinion, and wants to take charge and do that for his woman, I just feel like it's a very attractive quality to me.

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    For Lyss, a partner's willingness to plan and make decisions reflects their genuine interest in the relationship.

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