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Published May 8, 2023

Stop giving SO much to someone you’re not even dating

Lyss Boss delves into the importance of self-worth in dating, offering insights on identifying red flags and understanding relationship intentions, all while sharing personal stories that illuminate the challenges of modern relationships and the journey to authentic connections.
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  • Red Flags

    Recognizing red flags early in dating is crucial for avoiding unnecessary heartache. shares a story about a friend who dated a seemingly nice guy who consistently flaked on plans, using excuses like work or family emergencies. She emphasizes that genuine interest is shown through effort, regardless of distance or obstacles.

    If he really, really likes you, he's gonna drive the 40 minutes to see you. That's a given.

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    This pattern of avoidance is a clear red flag, indicating a lack of genuine connection or commitment 1.

       

    Rushing In

    Rushing into relationships often leads to disappointment and misunderstanding. reflects on her own experiences, noting that initial infatuation can blind one to the true nature of a partner. She advises taking time to truly understand someone before diving into a relationship.

    It's like the difference between lust and love and true love, in my opinion, is just... it comes much later in the relationship.

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    By slowing down, one can avoid the pitfalls of superficial connections and ensure that the relationship is built on a solid foundation 2 3.

       

    Intentions

    Understanding relationship intentions is key to discerning genuine interest from casual dating. shares insights on how some individuals may keep partners around for convenience rather than commitment. She highlights the importance of clarity and effort in relationships, noting that the right person will make their intentions clear.

    If you're confused all the time by a guy's actions... there's no point in continuing it because he doesn't want to be with you.

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    This clarity helps in recognizing when someone is truly invested in building a future together 4 5.

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