Affective Realism
Emotional immaturity can distort perceptions of reality, leading individuals to react defensively to healthy boundary-setting. When a child requests a simple phone call before a visit, it can trigger feelings of rejection in a parent, highlighting how affective realism shapes their emotional responses. This disconnect often results in misunderstandings, where the emotionally immature person perceives loyalty and love as being threatened, despite no real evidence supporting that belief.In this clip
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Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson
Dealing with Emotionally Immature People (and Parents) | Dr. Lindsay Gibson, Being Well Podcast
Related Questions
Why are my parents, both around 50, so emotionally immature and manipulative, as discussed in the episode "Recovering from Complex PTSD with Elizabeth Ferreira" from the Being Well Podcast, and in the clip "Family Dynamics Unraveled," as well as in episode 379: "How to Deal with a Cheating Dad | Feedback Friday" and the clip "Family Boundaries"? I've been able to meditate, journal, and improve myself, even overcoming my own manipulation habits. Why don't they want to change to treat us better? Is it crazy to think they got together with their problems, didn't fix them, and then had children, putting all their problems and pain on us? Are they really that far gone, thinking their children are responsible for every bad thing happening, or do they genuinely believe it's right to scream at their children?
Why are my parents, both around 50, so emotionally immature and manipulative, as discussed in the episodes 'Recovering from Complex PTSD with Elizabeth Ferreira | Being Well Podcast,' 'How to Deal with a Cheating Dad | Feedback Friday,' and the clips 'Family Dynamics Unraveled' and 'Family Boundaries'? I've been able to meditate, journal, and improve myself, even overcoming my own manipulation habits. Why don't they want to change to treat us better? Is it crazy to think they got together with their problems, didn't fix them, and then had children, placing all their problems and pain on us? Are they really that far gone, thinking their children are responsible for every bad thing happening, or do they genuinely believe it's right to scream at their children?
How do I handle emotional responses when setting boundaries with my mother?