Status and Leverage A listener shares her experience of feeling overshadowed by a colleague who delivered the same message more effectively, prompting her to reflect on her own value and staying power in her projects.
In this clip From this podcast Related Questions What does it mean when you realize you may have been making a mistake or taking criticism in a negative or defensive way on a project, as mentioned in the episode 394: Was I Unknowingly a Sugar Daddy? | Feedback Friday and the clip Navigating New Job? I'm frustrated about how I acted—responsive and thankful but also annoyed. Kaitlyn suggested I do something differently, but overall, I have a weird relationship with one manager at work. I'm going to change how I've been acting. I'm just an intern, but it's not obvious; everyone else loves me, and I love them. It's just this one person, and I need to change my attitude. She rarely gives me the space to explain and often asserts herself in the middle of presentations without letting me continue. It's very different from everyone else there. While it's useful in some ways, it's also frustrating. I'm proud that I recognize I need to adjust to her behavior. Will this change help her loosen her resistance too? But now, I'm feeling like I've had a negative impression on everyone and done a horrible job this summer. I know I haven't; I'm getting a return offer. But what is this feeling? I'm frustrated with my response to Kaitlyn's suggestion for change and my overall attitude. I recognize I need to adjust to this manager's behavior, but will this change help her loosen her resistance too? Why am I feeling like I've had a negative impression on everyone and done a horrible job this summer, even though I'm getting a return offer? How should I handle a weird relationship or connection with a manager at work, especially if they rarely give me the space to explain and often assert themselves during presentations?
