207. The Science-Backed Method for Goal Setting (No, it's not SMART goals!) with Caroline Adams Miller

Systemic Barriers

Caroline Adams Miller discusses the systemic barriers women face in male-dominated professions and the societal norms that perpetuate these challenges. She highlights the concept of "kicking and climbing," where women struggle to advance due to ingrained cultural narratives and linguistic biases 1. Caroline emphasizes the importance of setting specific, measurable goals to counteract these biases, as women often receive less feedback and support compared to men 2.

It's very diametrically uneven when it comes to men and women. So all kinds of research shows that something like 76% of men get specific feedback on their performance and leadership attributes and women don't.

--- Caroline Adams Miller

Mastermind groups are suggested as a solution, providing a supportive environment for women to share and pursue their goals without fear of judgment.

   

Amplifying Voices

Amplifying women's voices is crucial in overcoming societal barriers and fostering a culture of support and recognition. Caroline and Tori Dunlap discuss the backlash women often face when promoting their achievements, highlighting the need for a community that celebrates rather than criticizes 3. Caroline suggests forming alliances where women amplify each other's successes, thus avoiding the social penalties of self-promotion 4.

We should have other people putting things out on our behalf. But we continue to tell women, you know, you just have to self promote. You'll pay a price.

--- Caroline Adams Miller

This approach not only supports individual growth but also challenges the internalized misogyny that often undermines women's achievements.

   

Support & Grit

Building a strong support system is essential for cultivating grit and perseverance among women. Caroline emphasizes the role of active, constructive feedback in maintaining motivation and achieving goals 5. She notes that women often face negativity and lack of acknowledgment, which can derail their progress.

Your grit equation does not work unless you have people who are challenging you and supporting you.

--- Tori Dunlap

Creating a community that offers psychological safety and encouragement is vital for women to thrive, as it helps them overcome the societal pressures that often lead to burnout 6.