Being an Ally
Kate and Tori prompt listeners to consider what actions they expect from allies to combat complicity. They emphasize the importance of defining personal expectations for allies and advocating for specific actions to address complicity in relationships.In this clip
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My partner doesn't seem to think it might not be healthy or productive to allow the hurt partner to have their "moment in the spotlight" while discussing that person's hurt or concern. For example, if I come to him with something I'm sad about, he responds with comments about how I do that too, or how I do XYZ and it hurts him, or else he will bring up how he hasn't healed from the dinner with the ex. He also seems to consider every disagreement or discussion about relationship issues that need a compromise as a "fight," and he often gets very angry, starts yelling, and tells me to leave the room. What should I do in this situation?
He gets defensive immediately, even if I'm careful to use "I" statements and avoid personalizing anything. It feels like any concern or issue I raise is perceived as an attack, despite my efforts to remind him that I'm his teammate. He frequently defers to comments like, "Oh, because you're always right, huh?" or accuses me of manipulating the situation because I'm a lawyer and he's not. When I seek advice from others, he often dismisses it as me being bossy or cocky. How do I respond to this kind of mindset?
How can couples balance stability and personal growth in their relationships, as discussed in the episode #095: How To Talk About Race with Dr. Alexandra Solomon and the clip Embracing Discomfort?