How Do I Handle Being Rejected by My Child?

Connection

Establishing a connection with your child, even when physically apart, is crucial. Dr. Becky Kennedy suggests using visible work schedules with color coding to help children understand parental availability. This method allows children to feel more in control and manage expectations. She also recommends creating transitional objects, like notes or shared items, to maintain a sense of connection when a parent is absent 1.

We bring things up to let our kids know we're able to name and label and to show that we understand their internal experience.

--- Dr. Becky Kennedy

These strategies foster a supportive family environment, helping both parents and children navigate the challenges of parental absence.

   

Availability

Understanding and managing parental availability is essential for children's emotional well-being. Dr. Becky Kennedy emphasizes the importance of grounding oneself in the knowledge of being a good parent before addressing a child's feelings about absence 2. She advises parents to openly discuss work schedules with their children, allowing them to express feelings of missing their parents. This openness helps children process their emotions and reduces feelings of aloneness 3.

My child has understandable feelings about my unavailability, and I'm a good parent who loves my child.

--- Dr. Becky Kennedy

By acknowledging these feelings, parents can foster a deeper connection and understanding with their children.