DON'T WASTE 2023! - After This, You'll Change How You Do EVERYTHING | Tom Bilyeu

Earning Respect

Earning respect is a journey that requires continuous improvement and competence. Tom Bilyeu shares his personal experience of starting his career in a technology company where he was initially underestimated and placed in a server room, akin to "Harry Potter living under the stairs" 1. Over time, he realized that respect cannot be demanded but must be earned through competence and self-respect 2. Tom emphasizes that respect is an echo of one's competence and confidence, achieved by performing at a high level consistently 3.

Respect comes from competence. Whether it's your own self respecting yourself, doing something you think is worthy, getting good at something that is valuable, that's how you get somebody else's respect.

--- Tom Bilyeu

He advises focusing on personal growth and surrounding oneself with people who inspire improvement.

   

Commanding Respect

Commanding respect involves understanding the balance between kindness and assertiveness. Tom argues against the notion that being mean garners respect, instead suggesting that kindness and support are more effective in building strong teams and connections 4. He acknowledges cultural challenges in commanding respect, especially in environments where rising above one's station is frowned upon 5.

It's absolute bullshit that being nice causes people not to respect you, and that being mean gets you respect.

--- Tom Bilyeu

Tom advises divorcing oneself from others' opinions and focusing on personal growth and independence. He stresses the importance of getting so good at something that you cannot be ignored, even if it means moving on from those who fail to recognize your worth 6.