Published August 2021 on Spotfiy

544: Psycho Scammer Landlord Alert | Feedback Friday

1. Introduction

Nicole Perlroth discusses the biggest cyberwarfare threats globally, especially against the United States, and how our critical infrastructure is vulnerable to attacks due to poor security measures.+

2. Silent Endurance

Silent Endurance:Priyanka Mattoo shares her experience of working at a talent agency in LA and how she mistook silent endurance for resilience. She talks about how she realized her true calling and became a successful writer after leaving her job.+
Resilience and Denial:Jordan discusses the dark side of resilience and how it can lead to denial. He encourages listeners to question whether they are truly being resilient or just ignoring their unhappiness. This is especially relevant post-pandemic when many are considering big changes.+

3. Dangerous Roommate

Dangerous Roommate:Gabriel shares his terrifying experience with a violent and paranoid roommate who rents out rooms to unsuspecting victims. He seeks legal advice on whether he can safely write an article about this person to warn others about his rental scam and what his legal exposure would be.+
Psycho Scammer:Jordan and Gabriel discuss the legal difficulties of exposing a psycho scammer landlord and the potential risks involved in doing so. They offer advice on how to handle the situation and emphasize the importance of being cautious.+
Defamation and Public Records:Jordan and Corbin discuss the legal implications of writing about someone's criminal record and how to avoid defamation by using precise language and sticking to public records. They explain the criteria for a statement to be considered defamatory and emphasize the importance of accuracy when characterizing someone's interactions with the police.+
Defamation and Reputation:Gabriel and Corbin discuss how allegations can be defamatory and how reputation can play a role in a defamation case. They use examples of Harvey Weinstein and a violent landlord to illustrate their points.+
Landlord's Probation Violation:Gabriel and Corbin discuss the importance of differentiating between facts and opinions when discussing a landlord who may be targeting young female college students. Jordan suggests looking into the landlord's probation status and contacting his probation officer if he is in violation.+
Taking Down a Predator:Jordan advises a journalist on how to hold a predator accountable without risking their own safety or reputation. He suggests using the parole officer system and working with a publication to ensure legal protection. He emphasizes the importance of thorough research and caution, but encourages the journalist to pursue the story in order to potentially save lives.+

4. Sponsors

Jordan discusses the stigma surrounding therapy and how it prevents people from seeking help for their emotional, physical, or mental distress. He encourages listeners to take charge of their mental health by trying Better Help online therapy, which offers affordable and accessible counseling with licensed professionals. Fruit of the Loom is also a sponsor for this episode, offering clothes and underwear designed to fit kids of all shapes and sizes.+

5. Overcoming Chronic Lateness

Chronic Lateness:Gabriel shares his struggle with chronic lateness and how it's affecting his job. Jordan and Gabriel discuss the various theories behind chronic lateness, including the planning fallacy and sleep issues. They also explore potential solutions, such as setting realistic goals and creating a consistent sleep routine.+
Late People's Habits:Guy and Jordan discuss the habits of chronically late people, including their tendency to assume how long a task should take and their difficulty being comfortable with being early. They also touch on the correlation between multitasking and lateness, as well as the idea that type B people experience time differently. Additionally, they explore the theory that some people enjoy the adrenaline rush of being late.+
Fixing Chronic Lateness:Jordan and Gabriel discuss practical strategies to fix chronic lateness, including breaking down activities into detailed steps and committing to a routine every single day. They also explore the possibility of deeper issues underlying chronic lateness, such as anxiety or a need for control.+
Overcoming Lateness:Gabriel and Jordan discuss the underlying reasons for lateness and suggest creating new habits to overcome it. They also recommend seeking help from a sleep coach or therapist and provide resources for habit formation.+

6. Supporting a Friend

Supporting a Friend:Jordan and Gabriel discuss how to support a friend with an eating disorder. They emphasize the importance of being nonjudgmental and supportive, and offer advice on how to encourage the friend to seek treatment.+
Helping a Friend:Jordan advises seeking professional help, such as therapy and medical attention, for a friend struggling with an eating disorder. He suggests finding a therapist experienced in treating eating disorders and not relying solely on college medical staff. If the friend resists help, the listener may need to step in and assist in finding resources, such as in-patient programs or residential treatment.+
Supporting a Friend:Gabriel and Jordan discuss how to support a friend who is struggling with an eating disorder. They emphasize the importance of therapy and offer advice on whether or not to involve the friend's parents. They also provide resources for further support.+

7. Sponsors

Jordan and Jen share their experiences using Zelle and NetSuite, respectively, for their personal and business finances. They also discuss the importance of upgrading from outdated software like QuickBooks to more scalable solutions like NetSuite. Edmunds is also mentioned as a helpful resource for car shopping.+

8. Job Hopping Advice

Paralegal Job Dilemma:Gabriel is a paralegal who is considering going back to his old firm after only six months at his current job. Jordan advises him to make the change if he's unhappy and if the new job will be better. He also reminds Gabriel to make sure that the new job is not just a shiny new thing but a better opportunity for him.+
Job Hopping:Jordan advises a listener on job hopping and the importance of not overthinking it. He suggests going where you're wanted and where the work is interesting. Don't worry too much about the timeline, but if it becomes a pattern, it's time to figure out what's going on.+

9. Tattoo Regret

Epic Tattoo Regret:Gabriel shares the story of how he and his college friends got matching fishbowl tattoos and how he's been hiding it from his mom for 13 years. The hosts discuss the potential consequences of revealing the secret and offer advice on how to approach the situation.+
Embarrassing Tattoo:Jordan and Gabriel discuss what to do when a man's embarrassing tattoo is discovered by his mother after 13 years. They suggest being honest and upfront with her, and if she gets upset, let her come to terms with it. It's important to remember that it happened a long time ago and it's okay to laugh about it now.+
Dealing with Regrettable Tattoos:Jordan and Gabriel discuss how to deal with regrettable tattoos. They advise accepting and owning the tattoo, and not being too cagey or uncomfortable about it. They also suggest that if you really hate it, you can always have it removed or covered over with a better one.+

10. Outro

Jordan shares his personal networking strategies and emphasizes the importance of building relationships before you need them. He also offers a free course on networking that he uses himself.+