Generational Trauma Realization

Why do people easily fall into the trap of a victim mindset, and is it bad to be stuck in one? How can I avoid it properly? I often feel that the reason I overthink and have deep thoughts is because my father tortured and abandoned my mother and me during my childhood. This question is in relation to the episode There Is Nothing Wrong with You., the clip Unseen Emotional Trauma, the episode Debbie Millman Interview | The Tim Ferriss Show (Podcast), the clip Overcoming Childhood Trauma, the episode Why You FEEL LOST In Life & How To Find Your TRUE SELF AGAIN | Marisa Peer & Lewis Howes, and the clip Healing Childhood Wounds, as well as the episode #105: Coming Home to Your Body with Tami Amanda and the clip Overcoming Shame.