#585 After Dark: ADHD, Cocaine and Abandonment

Marriage

Dlaine's marriage has been a journey of ups and downs, marked by significant challenges and growth. Initially, her husband struggled to support her emotionally due to his own battles with job loss and depression, which affected their relationship dynamics 1. However, as he found stability in a new government job, his confidence returned, allowing him to be more present with their family 1. Despite ongoing struggles, Dlaine and her husband remain committed to working on their marriage, recognizing the importance of mutual support and understanding 2.

We survived. He got a job working with highways and started his climb back uphill.

--- Unknown

Their relationship, which began with a strong connection, continues to evolve as they navigate life's complexities together.

   

Parenting

Parenting has been both rewarding and challenging for Dlaine, especially with her two young children. Her oldest son, who is six, has exhibited behavioral issues since the age of three, which she initially attributed to her parenting 3. Through self-discovery, Dlaine realized that both she and her son have ADHD, reframing her understanding of his behavior as a neurological difference rather than a parenting failure 4. This insight has been pivotal in shaping her approach to parenting, fostering a more supportive and empathetic environment for her children.

I thought it was my parenting, but in the last couple of years I've kind of been on a self discovery journey with myself and discovered ADHD for myself.

--- Unknown

Her journey highlights the importance of self-awareness and adaptability in addressing the unique needs of each child.