Family Dynamics Uncovered

I have a question about the episode #269: How to Be a Better Partner with Jillian Turecki and the clip Healing and Rebirth. Why do people easily fall into the trap of a victim mindset, and is it bad to be stuck in one? How can I avoid it properly? I often feel that the reason I overthink and have deep thoughts is because my father tortured and abandoned my mother and me during my childhood. This question is in relation to the episode World Leading Therapist: 3 Simple Steps To Remove Your Negative Thoughts: Marisa Peer | E154, the clip Rewriting Childhood Beliefs, the episode There Is Nothing Wrong with You, the clip Unseen Emotional Trauma, as well as episode #105: Coming Home to Your Body with Tami Amanda and the clip Overcoming Shame.