What Everyone Gets Wrong About Self-Care & Burnout (+ What To Do Instead) With Dr. Pooja Lakshmin

Impacts on Relationships

Perfectionism often hinders authentic interactions and personal connections, as discussed by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. She explains that perfectionism consumes energy and keeps individuals preoccupied with their own performance, detracting from genuine conversations 1. This internal focus prevents people from being present in the moment and sharing their true selves with others. Lakshmin emphasizes the importance of recognizing when perfectionism arises, especially during chaotic times, and preparing for it by setting realistic expectations and allowing for downtime 2.

Perfectionism takes so much energy, it also prevents you from having genuine authentic interactions with other people.

--- Dr. Pooja Lakshmin

Understanding the cost of perfectionism can motivate individuals to shift their focus towards more meaningful interactions.

   

Managing Perfectionism

Managing perfectionism involves understanding its roots in control and shifting focus to internal values. Dr. Pooja Lakshmin suggests that perfectionism is about controlling others' perceptions, which can be softened rather than eliminated 2. She likens this process to adjusting a volume dial, allowing for more flexibility and less pressure. Lakshmin also highlights the power of internal values, which are not about external validation but about self-worth and authenticity 3.

Perfectionism is very externally focused. It's about exerting this control on how you're perceived.

--- Dr. Pooja Lakshmin

By focusing on internal values, individuals can gradually reduce the grip of perfectionism and embrace a more genuine self.