Relationship Expectations

Could you help me understand if my thoughts about gender dynamics in dating, as discussed in the episodes #1 REASON The Rate Of SINGLE MEN In The US Looking For Dates Has DECLINED | Chris Williamson, Modern Masculinity Crisis, and 655: David Eagleman | How Our Brains Construct Reality, as well as the discussions in the episodes 758: David Buss | The Evolution of Desire and the clip Mating Crisis Insights, are accurate? I feel that men have to work hard to gain social status and financial stability to attract women, while women are pursued regardless of their qualities. It seems like there are often many men interested in one woman, giving her the power to choose. I'm frustrated by the idea that men have to chase after women and navigate complex social games to gain their interest. I love women and don't want to have a negative mindset, but sometimes I can't help but feel this way.