Validating Emotions
The conversation delves into the nuances of gaslighting and the importance of validating feelings in relationships. Emily highlights the impact of minimizing emotions, while Dedeker reflects on her own tendencies to dismiss feelings due to past experiences. The discussion emphasizes the need for open communication and respect for one's emotional experiences, urging listeners to recognize the fine line between victimization and valid emotional responses.In this clip
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Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships
216 - What is Emotional Support?
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My partner doesn't seem to think it might not be healthy or productive to allow the hurt partner to have their "moment in the spotlight" while discussing that person's hurt or concern. For example, if I come to him with something I'm sad about, he responds with comments about how I do that too, or how I do XYZ and it hurts him, or else he will bring up how he hasn't healed from the dinner with the ex. He also seems to consider every disagreement or discussion about relationship issues that need a compromise as a "fight," and he often gets very angry, starts yelling, and tells me to leave the room. He gets defensive immediately, even if I'm careful to use "I" statements and avoid personalizing anything. It feels like any concern or issue I raise is perceived as an attack, despite my efforts to remind him that I'm his teammate. He frequently defers to comments like, "Oh, because you're always right, huh?" or accuses me of manipulating the situation because I'm a lawyer and he's not. When I seek advice from others, he often dismisses it as me being bossy or cocky. When discussing the importance of therapy to work on handling his intrusive thoughts and cognitive distortions that sabotage healthy communication, he acts as if I'm only researching one point of view, and he dismisses the idea that he needs therapy. He argues that his feelings are his own, and nobody should tell him how to feel, claiming that it would be inauthentic to ignore his feelings because they define who he is. How do I respond to this kind of mindset?
Can you be specific about how to utilize active listening, and why it's important?