103 - Relationship Agreements with Eri Kardos

Understanding Agreements

Eri Kardos, an international speaker and coach, introduces the concept of relationship agreements as a tool for enhancing both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships. These agreements encourage open communication and help partners navigate complex dynamics by addressing issues proactively rather than reactively. Dedeker Winston notes that discussing uncomfortable subjects upfront can prevent arguments later, making these agreements a bridge between traditional and non-traditional relationship techniques 1.

If you're happy with the same old ways of dating, if you enjoy sucking at communication and you have no desire to improve your romantic life, then our podcast might not be for you.

--- Emily Matlack

This approach is not just for those practicing polyamory but can be beneficial for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of themselves and their partners 2.

   

Negotiating Dynamics

Relationship agreements can reveal hidden dynamics and potential landmines within a relationship, leading to healthier interactions. Emily Matlack appreciates how these agreements can help partners communicate more effectively by framing challenges as opportunities for growth rather than conflict 3. Eri Kardos emphasizes that addressing these issues openly reduces the risk of explosive arguments, allowing more space for passion and romance 4.

Let's just bring it out. And chances are the landmine explosions will be far less with far less shrapnel, far less injury and a lot more happiness.

--- Eri Kardos

By creating a safe space for discussion, partners can avoid getting stuck in repetitive conflicts and instead focus on mutual growth.

   

Flexibility and Growth

Flexibility is crucial in relationship agreements, allowing for personal and relational growth. Eri Kardos suggests that these agreements should not be seen as rigid contracts but as evolving guidelines that adapt to the changing needs of the partners 5. Dedeker Winston highlights the importance of stepping away from traditional relationship norms and focusing on what truly works for the individuals involved 6.

Because a lot of what we're given in mainstream culture doesn't work. The story that all you have to do is find your prince or princess Charming, and you're done.

--- Eri Kardos

This approach encourages partners to explore new possibilities and redefine their relationship on their own terms.