133 - 6 Questions You Must Ask Your New Partner

Event Rules

Event participation in polyamorous relationships often involves navigating complex boundaries and agreements. Jase Lindgren highlights the importance of understanding these rules, which can include restrictions on attending events like play parties or family gatherings with a partner 1. These rules may be influenced by primary partners or family expectations, such as avoiding certain events to maintain family harmony or inheritance 2. Dedeker Winston suggests that discussing these boundaries early on can prevent misunderstandings and ensure everyone feels valued during special occasions 3.

It's just really very practical. It's just about money. Or like Emily was saying, that it could be more that you have primary partner, or, I'm sorry, that they would have a primary partner who would put limits on you.

--- Jase Lindgren

Understanding these dynamics helps in managing time and expectations effectively.

   

Veto Power

Veto power in relationships can be a contentious issue, often masked by good intentions but potentially leading to toxic dynamics. Dedeker Winston explains that veto agreements can subtly dictate a partner's choices, sometimes under the guise of protecting the relationship or family 4. This power dynamic can lead to the termination of new relationships if existing ones face challenges, as partners might prioritize resolving issues in their primary relationship 5. Emily Matlack questions the rationale behind veto power, suggesting it often reflects a hierarchical relationship structure.

I just always wonder, like with vetoing, what exactly is it about another person that would make a partner say, like, no, you're not allowed to date that.

--- Emily Matlack

Discussing veto power openly can help partners understand each other's boundaries and foster healthier relationship dynamics.