429 - Is Ambiamory Right for You?

Identity Debate

The debate over whether relationship styles are innate or chosen is complex. Emily Matlack shares her experience of feeling in the middle of the spectrum between monogamy and non-monogamy, highlighting the fluidity of these identities 1. Jase Lindgren expresses concern that viewing non-monogamy as merely a lifestyle choice could undermine its legitimacy, likening it to the arguments used against LGBTQ+ rights 1. Dedeker Winston adds that personality traits linked to comfort with non-monogamy are influenced by both nature and nurture, suggesting that for some, these preferences might feel more innate 2.

It's a spectrum for sure. And what do you two think? Do you feel like it's an identity or a preference or what?

--- Emily Matlack

The concept of ambiamory further complicates this discussion, as it involves a choice between monogamy and non-monogamy based on personal fulfillment rather than a fixed identity 3.

   

Cultural Views

Cultural perceptions of relationship identities often shape how they are viewed and practiced. Emily Matlack notes that ambiamory can face discrimination from those who strictly identify as non-monogamous, as it challenges the idea of fixed relationship identities 4. She emphasizes the importance of open communication in ambiamorous relationships, which may involve discussing interests in others or potential threesomes, a practice not always accepted in traditional monogamous settings 4.

I think it's definitely important to me that the ability to talk openly about my sexual or, you know, interest in other people with my partner, that that's allowed.

--- Emily Matlack

Jase Lindgren shares a personal story about a partner who chose monogamy to start a family, illustrating how ambiamory allows for fluidity in relationship choices based on changing life priorities 5. This flexibility can lead to fulfilling relationships, even if they evolve away from non-monogamy.