Timing in Conflict
Addressing hurt feelings in the moment can lead to heightened emotions and defensiveness. Instead, it's beneficial to wait for a designated time, like the "bullseye," to discuss concerns. This approach allows for calmer conversations and more constructive feedback, enhancing understanding and minimizing misunderstandings.In this clip
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Relationship Advice
389: Giving And Receiving Constructive Feedback
Related Questions
What should I do if my partner doesn't think it might be unhealthy or unproductive to allow the hurt partner to have their "moment in the spotlight" while discussing their concerns? For example, if I come to him with something I'm sad about, he responds with comments about how I do that too, or how I do XYZ and it hurts him, or he brings up how he hasn't healed from a past situation. He also seems to consider every disagreement or discussion about relationship issues that need a compromise as a "fight," often getting very angry, starting to yell, and telling me to leave the room. How should I handle this situation?
What should I do if my partner doesn't think it might not be healthy or productive to allow the hurt partner to have their "moment in the spotlight" while discussing their hurt or concern? For example, if I come to him with something I'm sad about, he responds with comments about how I do that too, or how I do XYZ and it hurts him, or else he will bring up how he hasn't healed from the dinner with the ex. He also seems to consider every disagreement or discussion about relationship issues that need a compromise as a "fight," and he often gets very angry, starts yelling, and tells me to leave the room.
What should I do if my partner doesn't think it might be unhealthy or unproductive to allow the hurt partner to have their "moment in the spotlight" while discussing that person's hurt or concern? For example, if I come to him with something I'm sad about, he responds with comments about how I do that too, or how I do XYZ and it hurts him, or else he will bring up how he hasn't healed from the dinner with the ex. He also seems to consider every disagreement or discussion about relationship issues that need a compromise as a "fight," and he often gets very angry, starts yelling, and tells me to leave the room. What should I do in this situation?