Understanding Stubbornness
Helen discusses the inherent traits that shape our relationships, emphasizing that stubbornness can stem from both personality and childhood experiences. She encourages listeners to recognize these traits not as fixed problems but as aspects of who we are, suggesting that understanding and acceptance can lead to positive change in relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of acknowledging our differences while fostering growth and connection.In this clip
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Related Questions
If we can't forget traumatic events but can modify our emotional response to past events, can the changes to a person's character following an event also be reversed or altered? For example, if someone who was once very positive and engaging returns from war or suffers the loss of a parent/spouse and becomes guarded and distant, how much of our 'character' is malleable? Or can people truly become 'stuck in their ways'? This question relates to the episode Unstressable with Robert Sapolsky - Revealing Humanity's Inner Workings and the clip Defining Moments.
Can you discuss the learned traits from childhood and how the only person in the world with whom we can have that experience again is our spouse or significant other, as discussed in episode #376: The Couple Who Changed How I Relate: Lessons from the Godparents of Love and the clip Healing Early Ruptures with Esther Perel on the Huberman Lab?