What is the four arrow model?

The "four arrow model" described by Andrew Huberman is a conceptual framework used to understand the dynamics of interpersonal relationships. Specifically, it includes the following components:

1. Me to You: Your perception of and actions towards the other person.
2. You to Me: The other person's perception of and actions towards you.
3. Me about You: Your perception of what the other person thinks about you.
4. You about Me: The other person's perception of what you think about them.

This model captures the bidirectional and reciprocal nature of relationships, where each person's perceptions and actions affect and are affected by the other's. The "arrows" symbolize the flow of perceptions and actions between the individuals in the relationship. Huberman discusses how this model plays out in every type of one-on-one relationship and significantly shapes interactions and emotional responses in those relationships 1 2.