How to resonate with someone?


To resonate with someone effectively, Jordan Harbinger emphasizes a few key strategies:

  1. Focus on Being Helpful: Avoid focusing on being someone's friend or seeking their approval. Instead, prioritize adding value to their life by sharing useful ideas and perspectives. This approach helps in genuinely building relationships without appearing to have an agenda 1.

  2. Make People Feel Good About Themselves: Use empathic statements that focus on the other person, reflecting their feelings and thoughts back to them. This makes the individual feel understood and valued, encouraging them to engage more actively in the conversation. Flattery can also be effective, but it should be used cautiously to avoid seeming insincere 2.

  3. Nonverbal Communication: Before speaking, your nonverbal cues such as posture, facial expressions, and open body language can significantly influence how others perceive you. A proactive practice like the "doorway drill" can help in habituating positive and open body language, making good first impressions more natural and effortless 3.

    Building Relationships

    Jordan advises listeners to forget about being someone's friend and instead focus on being helpful to them. Building great relationships comes from investing genuinely in other people, not by trying to build great relationships.

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These approaches emphasize authenticity and genuine interest in others, which are crucial for resonating and connecting on a deeper level.