What is a healing fantasy?

A "healing fantasy" involves the desire to repair a relationship with emotionally immature individuals, often parents, and to attain a more emotionally engaged relationship. Clinical psychologist Lindsay C. Gibson explains that while it is natural to want a deeper connection, persistently seeking such emotional engagement from someone who is emotionally immature can actually result in less fulfillment and more frustration. Instead, focusing on more realistic expectations and finding emotional needs met through oneself and other emotionally mature individuals is recommended. Establishing boundaries and understanding one's limits can help maintain a healthier relationship with emotionally immature parents while appreciating the existing bond 1 .