What is a love map?


A "love map" is a concept described by Dr. Julie Gottman, which refers to how well you know your partner's internal world. It encompasses understanding their feelings, values, beliefs, ethics, needs, and even personal memories such as their most embarrassing moment or favorite teacher. Developing a love map involves engaging in open-ended questions to deepen your knowledge of and connection with your partner. This is viewed as a foundational element in building and maintaining a healthy relationship 1 .

Building a Sound Relationship

Dr. Julie Gottman shares the Sound Relationship House theory, which includes Love Maps, Fondness and Admiration, and Turning Towards. She emphasizes the importance of knowing your partner's internal world, expressing love and respect, and responding to bids for connection.

Mind Pump Podcast

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