Hurtful Jokes
A listener grapples with her partner's hurtful jokes, feeling that his intent doesn't align with the impact of his words. Amanda shares her own experience, highlighting how certain comments can be interpreted in painful ways, even when there's no malicious intent. The conversation delves into the complexities of communication in relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding and empathy.In this clip
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We Can Do Hard Things
What If My Partner’s Jokes Hurt My Feelings?
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My partner is not committed to me; he wants all the benefits but criticizes me when I make mistakes, saying that nothing is done properly. Sometimes he pressures me to know things, and under that pressure, I end up lying. Then he starts to abuse me. When I complain about his abusive language, he says that when you get sweet words, men can physically abuse and torture you, and you should find a difference. But I'm getting hurt by his abusive language, and he doesn't want to change it. What should I do?
My partner doesn't seem to think it might not be healthy or productive to allow the hurt partner to have their "moment in the spotlight" while discussing that person's hurt or concern. For example, if I come to him with something I'm sad about, he responds with comments about how I do that too, or how I do XYZ and it hurts him, or else he will bring up how he hasn't healed from the dinner with the ex. He also seems to consider every disagreement or discussion about relationship issues that need a compromise as a "fight," and he often gets very angry, starts yelling, and tells me to leave the room. What should I do in this situation?