Golfers' Mental Focus

Are my thoughts about gender dynamics in dating, as discussed in the episode Relationships, Fear, and Doing What You Love with David Walton and Lewis Howes, and the clip Navigating Gray Areas, accurate? I feel that men have to work hard to gain social status and financial stability to attract women, while women are pursued regardless of their qualities. It seems like there are often many men interested in one woman, giving her the power to choose. I'm frustrated by the idea that men have to chase after women and navigate complex social games to gain their interest. I love women and don't want to have a negative mindset, but sometimes I can't help but feel this way.