#489: How to Get a Handle on Your Anger

Passive Aggression

Passive aggression is a subtle yet damaging form of anger expression that can significantly harm relationships. David Lieberman explains that unlike overt anger, passive aggression involves indirect actions like turning in work late or doing a sloppy job, often subconsciously, to exact justice or even the score 1. This behavior can lead to further manipulation when confronted, as individuals often deny their anger, perpetuating a cycle of passive aggression 1.

Anger does need a release valve of sorts. And when we suppress it...it will either just tear him apart from the inside, or it will lead to an overt explosion.

--- David Lieberman

Lieberman suggests that while anger can signal something is wrong, it should be managed wisely to avoid reckless actions and maintain clarity 2.

   

Physiological Effects

Anger triggers physiological responses that can cloud judgment and harm health. David Lieberman notes that hormones like cortisol, released during anger, interfere with the prefrontal cortex, impairing decision-making and executive function 3. This can lead to poor decisions, as seen in impulsive actions on social media, and long-term exposure to cortisol can cause weight gain and other health issues 3.

Anger clouds our judgments...I would much rather go into a situation with the objective lens of clarity.

--- David Lieberman

Additionally, anger can manifest in various forms, such as aggressive outbursts or passive suppression, each with its own set of physiological consequences like anxiety and depression 4.