The 5-minute playtime ritual that can help your kids listen

Rules

The concept of 'special time' is a unique approach to fostering better communication and behavior in children. Marielle Segarra explains that this involves setting aside dedicated time where parents refrain from giving commands, asking questions, or correcting behavior unless it's dangerous 1. This time is purely for play and connection, allowing children to lead the interaction. Roger Harrison, a pediatric psychologist, emphasizes that this break from constant demands helps strengthen the parent-child bond, making children more receptive to listening 2.

Special time becomes a tool that disrupts that cycle and increases opportunities for closeness between a parent and a child.

--- Roger Harrison

The rules are simple yet challenging, as parents must resist the urge to direct or question, focusing instead on being present and attentive.

   

Integration

Integrating 'special time' into daily routines can be transformative for family dynamics. Roger Harrison suggests setting aside five to ten minutes daily, or at least four times a week, for activities that engage a child's imagination, such as drawing or building blocks 2. This practice not only enhances the parent-child bond but also encourages children to express themselves freely. The acronym PRIDE—Praise, Reflect, Imitate, Describe, Enthusiasm—guides parents in how to interact during this time 3.

It might mean very little to you as the parent, but it means the world to a child to have you join them this way.

--- Roger Harrison

By following these steps, parents can create a nurturing environment that supports their child's emotional and creative development.