How to deal with a crush

Communication

Navigating the complexities of communicating feelings about a crush can be challenging, especially when it involves a friend. Damona Hoffman suggests a cautious approach, recommending subtle hints to gauge the other person's reaction before fully expressing one's feelings 1. This method allows for a gradual exploration of potential romantic interest without jeopardizing existing friendships. She shares a personal experience where clarity was prioritized over fantasy, leading to a liberating outcome despite the initial fear 1.

You have to tread lightly, because if you speak up, you might risk losing the thing that you do have in a platonic relationship.

--- Damona Hoffman

Additionally, Hoffman emphasizes the importance of understanding the reality of the situation, particularly when a crush is on someone unavailable, to avoid unnecessary stress 2.

   

Emotions

Managing emotions tied to a crush involves setting boundaries and recognizing internal feelings. Damona Hoffman advises against pursuing a crush while in a relationship, as it often stems from unmet needs rather than genuine romantic interest 3. She suggests using these feelings as an opportunity to communicate with one's partner about what makes you feel loved and heard.

You have to figure out how to create a clear boundary for yourself and make sure that you're not giving them any of the confusing signals.

--- Damona Hoffman

Hoffman also warns against the pitfalls of social media, which can distort perceptions of a crush and exacerbate emotions 4.