386 - Compersion: Is It Necessary? (with Dr. Marie Thouin and Dr. Sharon Flicker)

Research Methods

The research on compersion by Marie Thouin and Sharon Flicker employs both qualitative and quantitative methodologies to explore this complex emotional experience. Sharon highlights the importance of quantitative measures in validating hypotheses derived from qualitative studies, aiming to understand relationship dynamics in couples transitioning to non-monogamy 1. The development of a compersion scale is a significant step, although currently behind a paywall, it is accessible through Sharon's website 1.

It's nice when it happens, but I honestly think it's a little harder come by than some poly advocates would have you believe. It's not a sign of enlightenment. It's a sign of having lucked into an arrangement that really works.

--- Participant Quote

This quote underscores the nuanced nature of compersion, suggesting it may not be as universally attainable as some believe 2.

   

Qualitative Themes

Qualitative insights from the study reveal diverse themes influencing the experience of compersion. Sharon Flicker identifies individual factors like self-worth and mental health, alongside relationship dynamics such as communication and understanding of partner's relationships, as crucial to fostering compersion 3. Marie Thouin offers two definitions of compersion: empathic joy and joy in a partner's happiness within another relationship, highlighting its multifaceted nature 4.

In a non-monogamous context, the joy and the positive emotions that we experience when our partner experiences joy and positive emotions in the context of another relationship.

--- Marie Thouin

These insights emphasize the complexity of compersion, suggesting it is both an innate and learned skill 3.