Navigating Triangles
Teaching a partner how to navigate relational triangles can often backfire, as people generally resist being managed. Instead, offering neutral, supportive responses encourages them to find their own solutions while fostering a sense of empowerment. It's crucial to maintain neutrality in your responses, allowing your partner to process their feelings without inserting yourself into the problem.In this clip
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Related Questions
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What should I do in this situation?
My partner doesn't seem to think it might not be healthy or productive to allow the hurt partner to have their "moment in the spotlight" while discussing that person's hurt or concern. For example, if I come to him with something I'm sad about, he responds with comments about how I do that too, or how I do XYZ and it hurts him, or else he will bring up how he hasn't healed from the dinner with the ex. He also seems to consider every disagreement or discussion about relationship issues that need a compromise as a "fight," and he often gets very angry, starts yelling, and tells me to leave the room.