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Published Oct 14, 2022

Why we Have Trust Issues in Relationships

Myrna Young delves into the four essential types of trust in relationships—care, competence, character, and consistency—offering practical insights and actionable advice for building stronger, more reliable connections.
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  • Care

    Building trust in relationships starts with care, where emotional and practical support play a crucial role. explains that when we care about our partners, we prioritize their well-being over our own. Examples include helping with tasks like moving or attending doctor's appointments, demonstrating that we value their needs.

    When we care about our partners, we put our emotion in their hands so that they can care about what is best for us and not what's best for them.

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    This level of care builds a foundation of trust, as partners feel supported and valued 1.

       

    Competence

    Trusting a partner's competence is vital, especially in crucial situations. highlights that competence involves trusting your partner's abilities to handle financial matters or make important decisions when you're unable to do so. This trust is built on the belief that your partner will act in your best interest.

    You trust that your partner is competent to handle financial matters and make decisions that are best for you and not best for them.

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    Without this trust in competence, doubts can arise, weakening the relationship's foundation 2.

       

    Character

    Character is another cornerstone of trust, focusing on a partner's moral compass and consistency in actions. explains that a person with strong character practices what they preach and is reliable in interdependent relationships. This trust is often based on past experiences and the reputation they've built.

    When we say that someone has character, they practice what they preach, and they are valuable in interdependent relationships because they have a good reputation.

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    Trusting a partner's character means believing they will remain faithful and supportive 2.

       

    Consistency

    Consistency in a partner's actions and reliability is essential for trust. emphasizes that consistent support through highs and lows builds a dependable relationship. This reliability ensures that partners can count on each other, fostering a sense of security.

    Your partner shows consistency when they're reliable. And you know that they always have your back.

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    Such consistency is crucial for long-term relationships, where trust is central to mutual growth and support 3.

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