The case for being ordinary

Social Pressures

In today's society, young adults face immense pressure to achieve extraordinary standards in every aspect of life. Rainesford Stauffer highlights how social scripts and media perpetuate unrealistic milestones, urging individuals to chase an ideal life that often feels unattainable 1. She argues that the concept of the "best life" is a social construct that dictates a specific order of achievements, from career success to perfect family life, which can be overwhelming and unrealistic 1. Stauffer emphasizes the importance of redefining what home means, as the constant push to move and achieve can disenfranchise those without the means to do so 2.

The concept of the best life serves as a social script. Do these things in this order and you'll end up happy or fulfilled.

--- Rainesford Stauffer

Young adults are encouraged to find fulfillment in their current circumstances rather than constantly seeking the next big thing.

   

Finding Fulfillment

Finding fulfillment and identity without succumbing to external pressures is a challenge for many young adults. Rainesford Stauffer advises that relationships in early adulthood are formative and should be approached with the mindset of mutual choice, rather than simply seeking validation from others 3. She stresses the importance of self-care, not as a means of self-optimization, but as a critical practice for maintaining well-being in a world that often equates worth with productivity 3. Embracing ordinariness involves acknowledging that one is enough as they are, and shifting focus from external markers of success to personal values and needs 4.

You're complete as is if you choose to add romantic or sexual partners to that.

--- Rainesford Stauffer

This approach encourages young adults to prioritize their own happiness and fulfillment over societal expectations.