How to get over someone

Heartbreak's Impact

Heartbreak is not just an emotional experience but a neurological one, as explained by Andrew Limbaugh. He highlights insights from Naomi Eisenberger, a UCLA professor, who reveals that social rejection activates the same brain regions as physical pain 1. This understanding underscores the genuine distress caused by breakups, emphasizing the need for self-care and acknowledgment of one's feelings. Orna Goralnik, a clinical psychologist, advises that breakups deserve attention and should not be dismissed as trivial 1.

A breakup is, first of all, worthy of their self-care, of paying attention to their feelings and not expecting of themselves to get over a breakup as if it's nothing.

--- Orna Goralnik

Amy Chan, who founded the Renu breakup boot camp, echoes this sentiment, noting that feeling a range of emotions is normal and part of the grieving process 1.

   

Emotional Reactions

Personal stories often illustrate the immediate emotional reactions following a breakup. Amy Chan shares her experience of an abrupt end to her relationship due to infidelity, which left her feeling shattered and questioning her identity 2. This intense emotional response is common, as heartbreak can lead to depression and panic attacks, highlighting the profound impact of losing a significant relationship.

I remember so clearly the moment I found out and just physically falling to the floor and not being able to get myself up.

--- Amy Chan

Andrew Limbaugh emphasizes that regardless of how a breakup occurs, it invariably causes pain, but there are ways to recover and heal 2.