Published Feb 9, 2025

579: 4 steps to become more confident & calm | Gabby Bernstein

Spiritual teacher Gabby Bernstein delves into Internal Family Systems therapy and its role in emotional healing, offering a four-step process to transform anxiety into a tool for self-discovery. She also explains the balance between action and rest, and how aligning daily rituals with your true self can cultivate confidence and inner peace.

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- Why do people easily fall into the trap of a victim mindset, and is it bad to be stuck in one? How can I avoid it properly? I often feel that the reason I overthink and have deep thoughts is because my father tortured and abandoned my mother and me during my childhood.
  Asked by 140 people
- Can difficult situations lead to personal growth as discussed in the episodes "The Mindset You Need to Live Your Best Life | Lewis Howes," "Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera and Lewis Howes," and the clips "Emotional Healing Journey" and "Breaking Emotional Cycles"?
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- Why do people easily fall into the trap of a victim mindset, and is it bad to be stuck in one? How can I avoid it properly? I often feel that the reason I overthink and have deep thoughts is because my father tortured and abandoned my mother and me during my childhood. This question is in relation to the episode #105: Coming Home to Your Body with Tami Amanda and the clip Overcoming Shame.
  Asked by 100 people
- How do Jordan Harbinger and Gabriel Mizrahi suggest dealing with trauma in episode 723: Should I Relive the Drama of Childhood Trauma? | Feedback Friday and the clip Unpacking Trauma?
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- Can letting go lead to personal growth as discussed in episode #177: Healing Your Programming with Rachel Fiori and the clip Unconditional Love and Self-Mastery, in relation to episode #291: Why Relationships are Vehicles to a Spiritual Awakening with Maryam Hasnaa and the clip Cultivating Authentic Self-Love?
  Asked by 95 people
- Can letting go lead to personal growth as discussed in episode #177: Healing Your Programming with Rachel Fiori and the clip Unconditional Love and Self-Mastery, in relation to episode #291: Why Relationships are Vehicles to a Spiritual Awakening with Maryam Hasnaa and the clip Cultivating Authentic Self-Love, considering the insights from episode #406: Why Masculinity Needs Vulnerability with Samir Mourani and the clip Meaningful Connections?
  Asked by 91 people
- Can letting go lead to personal growth as discussed in episode #177: Healing Your Programming with Rachel Fiori and the clip Unconditional Love and Self-Mastery, in relation to the episode #291: Why Relationships are Vehicles to a Spiritual Awakening with Maryam Hasnaa and the clip Cultivating Authentic Self-Love?
  Asked by 89 people
- Can belief in oneself lead to success, as discussed in the episode "In Order To CHANGE YOUR LIFE, You Need To UNDERSTAND THIS FIRST! | Sarah Jakes Roberts & Lewis Howes" and the clip "Embracing Self-Worth"?
  Asked by 84 people
- How can self-compassion be fostered?
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- Can difficult situations lead to personal growth as discussed in the episodes "The Mindset You Need to Live Your Best Life | Lewis Howes" and "These DAILY HABITS Will Prime Your Brain To Get ANYTHING YOU WANT | Tony Robbins"?
  Asked by 80 people
- How do you practice self-compassion?
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- Can self-doubt be overcome as discussed in the episode "I DID THIS To Build A BILLION DOLLAR Business!" | Jamie Kern Lima & Lewis Howes, the clip Embracing Imperfection, the episode "PSYCHOLOGIST REVEALS The #1 Thing HOLDING YOU BACK In Life!" | Scott Barry Kaufman & Lewis Howes, and the clip Self-Belief and Greatness?
  Asked by 76 people
- Can difficult situations lead to personal growth as discussed in the episode "The Mindset You Need to Live Your Best Life | Lewis Howes" and the clip "Emotional Healing Journey," as well as in the episode "Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera and Lewis Howes" and the clip "Breaking Emotional Cycles"?
  Asked by 71 people
- Why does someone become attached to a toxic relationship, as discussed in episode #001: A Little More About Me and My Journey and the clip Understanding Our Wounding Patterns?
  Asked by 63 people
- Can difficult situations lead to personal growth as discussed in the episode "The Mindset You Need to Live Your Best Life | Lewis Howes," the clip "Emotional Healing Journey," the episode "Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera and Lewis Howes," and the clip "Breaking Emotional Cycles"?
  Asked by 58 people

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579: 4 steps to become more confident & calm | Gabby Bernstein

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Understanding IFSGabby Bernstein, a spiritual teacher and bestselling author, shares her transformative journey with Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. She discusses how IFS has helped her connect with her inner self and heal, offering insights into its principles and personal impact.

Understanding IFS

Emotional ProcessingGabby Bernstein explores the transformative power of emotions and inner safety practices. She shares insights on recognizing emotional patterns as protective mechanisms and fostering a sense of safety through compassionate practices.

Emotional Processing

Managing AnxietyGabby Bernstein explores anxiety as a protective mechanism and introduces a four-step process to engage with it effectively. She emphasizes the importance of willingness over confidence in transforming anxiety into a tool for self-discovery and healing.

Managing Anxiety

Balancing Action and RestGabby Bernstein discusses the interplay between surrender and willingness, highlighting how these concepts can lead to personal transformation. She shares her morning rituals and the importance of aligning actions with one's true self to achieve inner peace and success.

Balancing Action and Rest

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