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Published Aug 11, 2021

How Do You Love Without Being Attached? | Kevin Griffin

Dan Harris and Kevin Griffin delve into the Buddhist perspective on self-love, non-attachment, and kindness, offering insights into how recognizing the transient nature of thoughts and practicing 'living kindness' can enrich personal relationships and promote a more nurturing relationship with oneself.
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  • Self-Love

    explores the Buddhist perspective on self-love, emphasizing the importance of understanding the self as an illusion. He shares that self-love can be seen as an act of mercy, allowing individuals to let go of self-criticism by recognizing the transient nature of thoughts 1. adds that realizing there's no solid self to hate can be liberating, as it encourages a more compassionate approach to oneself 2.

    It's an act of mercy to yourself to see that there's no solid self there to hate or to be pissed off at all the time, to stop taking yourself so seriously.

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    This understanding fosters a sense of kindness and reduces suffering, aligning with Buddhist teachings on love and compassion.

       

    Self-Care

    Mindful self-care, as discussed by , involves cultivating a baseline of non-ill will towards oneself and others. He suggests that care is an active form of kindness, emphasizing daily actions like proper rest, nutrition, and exercise as expressions of self-love 3. highlights the importance of not grading oneself on worthiness but rather focusing on nurturing actions that reflect self-care 4.

    Care is living kindness because care is active. If we're talking about caring, not just I care about you, but I take care of you, I take care of me, I take care of the world.

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    This approach aligns with Buddhist principles, promoting a compassionate and practical way to engage with oneself and the world.

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