Why Do We Create Unhappiness?

Tantrums & Negativity

Myrna Young explores the ineffectiveness of negative behavior through the lens of children's tantrums. She shares personal experiences, emphasizing that tantrums do not yield desired outcomes, whether in children or adults. Myrna notes that negativity, ranging from irritation to anger, is a form of resistance that ultimately strengthens the ego rather than resolving issues 1.

The fact that negativity does not work, instead of attracting a desirable condition, it stops it from arising.

--- Myrna Young

This perspective challenges the belief that unhappiness can change reality, highlighting its futility in achieving goals 2.

   

Boundaries & Behavior

Setting boundaries is crucial in parenting, as Myrna Young illustrates with her foster daughter. She recounts how enforcing rules, like removing a TV from her daughter's room, teaches children that entitlement and negative behavior do not lead to rewards 1. This approach not only curbs tantrums but also instills self-regulation and accountability.

You don't cry and create a tension champion because you think that that's going to get you something you want. It never works.

--- Myrna Young

Myrna argues that consistent boundary-setting helps children become contributing members of society, as it discourages reliance on negativity to achieve desires.