Erica Ariel Fox - Resolve Conflicts by Negotiating with Yourself First

Internal Voices

Erica Fox introduces the concept of balancing internal voices as a crucial step in decision-making. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and harmonizing these voices to achieve clarity before negotiating externally 1. This internal negotiation is not just about having a single voice but acknowledging multiple voices, each with its own truth. Fox explains, "You don't have an internal voice. You have internal voices. And to be mindful of the range of voices that are speaking at the same time and to honor them as each having their own truth."

You don't have an internal voice. You have internal voices. And to be mindful of the range of voices that are speaking at the same time and to honor them as each having their own truth.

--- Erica Fox

This approach is deeply rooted in mindfulness and neuroscience, aligning with the idea that understanding these voices leads to healthier decision-making 2.

   

Self-Assessment

Performing self-assessment is vital for understanding which internal voices dominate our decision-making processes. Erica Fox describes this as the "performance gap," where knowing what to do doesn't always translate into action 3. She highlights the importance of accessing inner archetypes like the dreamer, thinker, lover, and warrior to bridge this gap. "You've got to open up the artery that fuels the dreamer in you," she notes, emphasizing the need to tap into these archetypes to act effectively in real-life situations.

You've got to open up the artery that fuels the dreamer in you.

--- Erica Fox

Fox also discusses various practices, from meditation to experiential courses, that can help individuals open up these dimensions of self, ultimately leading to more skillful means in high-stakes situations 4.