Karamo: How to Actually Do Self-Love (January, 2021)

Gender Roles

Karamo discusses the societal constraints that hinder men from expressing vulnerability and self-love. He highlights how traditional gender roles discourage men from showing emotions, equating vulnerability with weakness. Karamo shares a personal story from his youth to illustrate this point, recalling a time when he was discouraged from expressing pain during a football game 1. He emphasizes that embracing vulnerability is crucial for personal growth and strength, stating, "When we are able to show up and say, you know what? I can be strong and smart for you right now, but also I can be vulnerable for you right now" 2.

   

Self-Love Myths

Karamo addresses the misconception that self-love is selfish or self-indulgent, arguing that society often pressures individuals to prioritize others over themselves. He believes this mindset leads to guilt and dissatisfaction, as people feel they must constantly be doing something for others 3. Karamo stresses the importance of redefining self-love as a necessary practice for personal fulfillment and happiness. Dan Harris adds that self-love is not about becoming self-obsessed but is a nuanced and scientifically backed practice 4.