Hitting A Pandemic Wall? Remember To Show Up For Yourself

Honest Communication

Honest communication is crucial in building intimate connections, especially during challenging times. Rachel Wilkerson Miller emphasizes the importance of being truthful with close friends and loved ones about personal struggles. She suggests that when someone genuinely cares and asks how you're doing, it's beneficial to be honest about your feelings, such as admitting to having a rough day or feeling lonely. This honesty not only relieves the burden of keeping secrets but also fosters a sense of relief and connection, as others often feel the same way.

It's really nice to hear you say that because now I know that I can say that to you or I can say that to somebody later today because it just sort of reminds people, yeah, you have permission to just be truthful and be a little bit vulnerable with people.

--- Rachel Wilkerson Miller

By being open, we give others permission to be vulnerable too, strengthening our bonds and creating a supportive environment 1.

   

Mindful Venting

Mindful venting is about responsibly sharing your feelings without overwhelming friends and loved ones. Rachel Wilkerson Miller advises being conscious of how often and to whom you vent, suggesting that if every conversation feels like the same vent to different people, it's time to reassess. She highlights the importance of timing, noting that therapy sessions typically last 45 to 50 minutes, which is a reasonable duration for venting.

Don't always be the person who starts the conversation with venting. Ask and genuinely listen to the answer, how your friend is doing.

--- Rachel Wilkerson Miller

By balancing venting with genuine interest in others, we build trust and ensure that when we truly need support, our friends will be there for us 2.